I loved being part of Refashion Runway. It challenged me in not only my sewing, but in the core of me too.
I realise blogging puts you in quite a vulnerable position. You share your voice and your creativity with the world for complete strangers to accept or reject as they please. It’s a scary feeling!
What if no-one likes me?
What if I get ridiculed?
What if I fail?
What if I succeed?
I might disappoint people.
Being a part of Refashion Runway was a great experience and I totally recommend it if refashioning is your thing. Beth is so sweet and the other competitors were both encouraging and inspiring. Not to mention the amazing support of all my wonderful readers! Every comment you leave truly means the world to me.
I’ve got to be honest though and say that pitching my creativity beside others to be compared and voted on was tough. Everything I make comes from deep within me, so sometimes it feels like I’m exposing my very soul to the world. It’s a position of complete vulnerability.
I found this encouraging TED talk “The Power of Vulnerability” by Brene Brown (and her accompanying talk “Listening to Shame“) and I wanted to share all this with you too, because don’t we all have times of feeling like this? When we have a chance take a leap and put ourselves out there, in a state of vulnerability?
Here are some key points I picked up that I want to hold onto forever:
- Take courage to be imperfect. We’re surrounded by images of perfection everywhere and it’s highly unrealistic as a lifestyle. We are imperfect … and it’s ok. Of course, it’s always good to strive for better and to improve ourselves, but don’t be hard on yourself either and don’t be afraid to let others see those imperfections.
- Vulnerability is the birthplace of joy and love. We can’t selectively numb emotions, so when we numb vulnerability, we also numb joy, gratitude and happiness.
- Let ourselves be seen. The real us and not just the person you think others want to see. You have a lot of beauty to offer too.
- To love with our whole hearts. That can feel risky when we don’t know how it will be received or what the final outcome will be. But the rewards when it turns out well are incredible. Sometimes it is just worth the risk.
- Practice gratitude and lean into joy. Turn away from fear and sadness.
and my favourite point of all …
“I am enough”
You are already worthy of love. If others don’t see that, it still doesn’t change the fact. Just find those that do see it. Obviously, my faith in God is a huge source of this for me.
So through all my stirred up vulnerabilities and insecurities, I’m learning to work with them and not push them down. I doubt it’s a journey I’ll ever be finished with. There is plenty of fodder to work with there. But that place of opening up the real “you” is where beauty happens.
You have all been so amazing in your support and encouragement on this blog and I am so grateful for every single comment you leave. More than you’ll know. But I realise too that not everyone will like what I make or write and I need to be okay with that too. God loves me, so shouldn’t I too?
So next time you feel rejected or a bit vulnerable, don’t shut down or block people out. Stay open and let goodness flow back in. It’s also a place where the beautiful things of life happen and you don’t want to miss out on those too.